If you have chosen a career path as a police officer, then you know a thing or two about sacrifice. The decision to base your life around serving others is a noble and praiseworthy choice. Not every person is cut out for the responsibilities, difficulties, and challenges associated with being a police officer. If you have chosen to Be a police officer while raising a family then the challenges in both areas of your life are magnified. In and of itself raising a family is difficult. In and of itself being a police officer is difficult. Combine the two and you have challenges that most of us never cap to consider in our daily lives.

The same challenges that a police officer faces in a marriage are also faced by the spouse of a police officer. If your spouse is a police officer then understanding the ins and outs of the divorce process is important. Police officers are treated just like anyone else in the divorce process. It is not as if police officers are given preferential treatment during a divorce. Some people assume that because police officers hold such a high place of esteem in our culture and society that they receive better treatment from family court judges. However, that is just not the case.

Family law cases are incredibly fact-specific. this means that while the Texas family code will play a role in the ultimate decision making in your case you should also expect that family court judges would make decisions based on these circumstances of your case and these situations that you and your spouse find yourself in. Since different judges can have different viewpoints the result of a case can be very different. if you allow your case to reach a judge. Otherwise, you and your police officer spouse will have the final say in determining how your divorce will come to an end.

Police Officer Pension

One of the concerns you may have is regarding the police officers’ pension that your spouse receives. It is a defined benefit plan which means that a specific amount of money is provided to your spouse at their retirement from the police force. Typically, this follows the need to serve the community for a certain number of years I was serving as an active duty member of the police force. You and your attorney should verify whether your spouse qualifies for this benefit or if you and your spouse need to be married for a certain number of years to qualify for benefits.

Community property is divisible in a Texas divorce. The portion of the pension that was acquired during the marriage would be divisible in the divorce assuming that you are eligible to receive it as a function of any requirements set forth by the police force. The analysis will need to be performed by someone who oversees the pension benefit for the law enforcement body for whom your spouse works.

A qualified domestic relations order (QDRO) will need to be drafted after your divorce to have those benefits flow to you without any sort of penalty. This document will need to be drafted based on the specific language that needs to be included depending upon the plan administration. Your attorney should contact the law enforcement body and find out what language needs to be included to have the money be divided up correctly after your divorce. You do not want to put yourself in a position where you complete your divorce but are not able to gain access to the funds that were provided to you in the divorce. It is difficult to re-open a divorce once the case has been finalized.

Child custody issues within a police officer divorce

When it comes to child custody topics in a police officer divorce the Texas family code sets forth the same standards for you and your spouse as it does for any other set of married people going through the divorce process with children. The best interests of your child will be considered and decisions will be made by a judge according to the best interests of your child based on the specific needs of your children and your family circumstances. I think this is an important topic to consider so we can walk through some of the circumstances that may be relevant in the life of your family and how it may play out regarding a child custody determination.

For one, the work schedule of your police officer spouse would need to be considered. When it comes to conservatorships roles for parents and a divorce one parent would have visitation rights and the other parent would have the right to determine the primary residence of the children. The decision about which parents should have the right to determine the primary residence of the children should be based on the role that each parent has played in the life of the child to that point as well as the best interests of the children. If you have typically been the parent who takes the children to school, to the doctor’s office, and to extracurricular activities you would likely be named as the primary conservator of the children in the divorce case.

Another factor that ought to be considered is the work schedule of your police officer spouse. Police officers typically work schedules where they are on shift for long periods and then off shift for another lengthy period even then, your spouse may be called into work if additional offices are needed for a particular purpose or cause. For that reason, with long hours and an unpredictable schedule, your spouse may not be well suited to act as a primary conservator of your children.

Additionally, you and your spouse may need to get creative when it comes to working on a possession schedule for your children. Many times a parent who does not have primary custody of the children will be assigned what they call a standard possession order. A standard possession order means that your spouse would have possession of the children on the first, 3rd, and 5th weekends of each month. Visitation time during the summer will be extended in holiday visitation will be split equally each year. This is what most families encounter during a Texas divorce.

However, your spouse likely does not have a work schedule that allows you to consider these types of circumstances and allow for people to Possession of their children on a set schedule like everybody else. This is not a major issue, but it does require you and your spouse to be able to work together to come up with a flexible yet predictable schedule for all parties involved. Not only do you need to know what your schedule looks like on a week to week and month to month basis, but your children need to be able to know that they are going to be able to have a relationship with both of their parents despite the divorce.

Again, the circumstances of your family are extremely important when determining a possession schedule in a police officer divorce. I don’t want to take up time in space in this blog post speculating as to what your spouse’s work schedule may be. What you should and could do is work with an experienced family law attorney to help you determine what the best type of possession schedule is based on the needs of your family and the work schedule that you all have. Several factors will come into play and help to determine how a custody schedule either does or does not work well for your family.

I would first consider the age of your children. Younger children may be able to withstand more frequent back and forth between the homes of their parents more readily than older children. Younger children have less gone on typically in terms of extracurricular activities in school responsibilities. Frankly speaking, younger children also wake up easier in the morning and are more agreeable to getting into a vehicle and going back and forth between parents on a more regular basis. Therefore, if you have younger school-aged children or preschool-aged children, they may be able to handle more frequent changes in possession during the week.

On the other hand, the older your children are the less likely they would be to tolerate frequent changes in possession and going back and forth between the homes of you and your spouse. It is more likely that these older children have school, work and extracurricular responsibilities that make it so they would not be as agreeable to Bing shuffled back and forth between mom and dad. It is likely that they also have friends and other interests that put them outside the house more regularly. For older children, you may be more interested in allowing for the children to have extended times with their other parents and also extended times with you.

Of course, this entire discussion hinges upon the location of your home relative to your spouse’s home. Many times, spouses have little choice but to live far apart from one another after a divorce. For instance, if you and your spouse live together in The Woodlands when you were married but your spouse works for the Harris County Sheriff’s Department, he may choose to move closer to work. So, if he ends up living in Cypress and you still live in The Woodlands that means you have a 30-minute drive at least both ways to contend with when it comes to dropping off and picking up children.

The logistical challenges of living in a big city like Houston make it so you and your family need to work together to come up with a possession schedule that works based on the specific circumstances that here family has. Simply assuming that the travel schedules are going to work once you put them into practice does not serve your family well. Specifically, if you are creating a very intricate and finetuned possession schedule and mediation you need to think about how the travel, logistics, and time commitments will all factor into this discussion. Just because something looks good on paper and would work in theory does not mean that it will. Rather, you need to be practical and assume that travel will not be as easy for your family as you may be assuming.

It may even make sense for you to insert a geographic restriction into your final decree of divorce. A geographic restriction serves several purposes. The first purpose would be to allow the non-primary parent to be able to ensure that they will be able to stay close to their children no matter what you as the primary parent decide to do in terms of where you live. Imagine a situation where you are the primary parent of your children, and the kids live with you full time. if you decided to, theoretically, you could decide to move with the children every couple of years. This would put your spouse in a situation where he would have to move along with you based on whatever desires you have period

A geographic restriction would force you to reside with the children within a certain geographic area. Many people choose Harris County in any contiguous county that borders on Harris. I have seen people choose Harris County and Montgomery County as the only counties where the children can live. Still, other parents have taken a liking to a certain school district and have limited the geographic area where they can live to that certain district. Whatever you and your family decide to do, you should think about the needs of your family both now and in the future. If you have very young children at home, it may well be that the needs of your family change overtime period on the other hand, if your children are teenagers then you all only have to live with the terms of your order for a short.

If you are the police officer in this marriage, then you may want to have a geographic restriction enclosed within your family court orders to make sure that your ex-spouse does not leave with the children. If you have been with a particular law enforcement body for an extended period. You likely would not want to move and risk losing the benefits and seniority that you have accumulated during your time working for that group. As a result, preventing your ex-spouse from leaving the Houston area probably is something that you want to provide for as much as possible.

The next thing that you need to consider is where you are going to live after the divorce. If we assume that you are the spouse who will be moving out of the home, then you need to decide where you want to live full time after the case is over. Many law enforcement officers choose not to live in the area where they work in. For example, if you are a Houston police officer then you may choose to live in one of the suburbs in Harris County or even in Montgomery or Fort Bend County.

While there is nothing wrong with this it can add difficulties to the case in terms of choosing where your children will live. For all parties, it would make sense for you to live close to your ex-spouse to make transportation and logistics easier for your children. It would also make it simpler for you to be able to pick the children up or drop them off at a moment’s notice depending upon the changing nature of your work schedule.

Another factor to consider is that while the geographic restriction protects you as the non-primary parent it is a double-edged sword. For example, if you put a geographic restriction into place and decide that you want to move outside of that geographic area this could be disastrous for you. The reason why this is the case is that if you move out of the geographic restricted area then your spouse can do the same thing. This puts you in a position where you may end up having to follow him or her around based on the changes in their own life in order so that you can be close to your children. The bottom line is that while the geographic restriction protects you as a police officer it can also be used against you if you choose to live outside that area. You should consider all these issues while the divorce is going on. Do not assume that you can go back and amend the divorce decree later on if circumstances change period

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