As the holiday season approaches and all should be merry and bright, the black clouds are starting to gather for many married couples and families. January is always one of the top months for divorce filings since many people want to change their personal life situations with the start of the New Year.
Instead of receiving a knock on the door in January from a process server with your divorce summons, here are some Divorce Warning Behavior Signals to look for in your spouse that should not be Ignored. In the Nacol Law Firm’s Family Law Practice, I have placed the warning signals by priority from “something is changing” to “we are in serious trouble”:
- Do you have a ”gut feeling” that there is a “defensive aura” between you and your spouse? The marriage is not going well, and your spouse is wanting to end the marriage.
- Has your spouse changed “their look and appearance” in relationship to you or other people? New clothes, new look, new friend? Maybe starting to detach mentally from your marriage?
- Possibly one spouse is now “very busy” and preoccupied with work, texting, private telephone calls with friends and long disappearing shopping excursions with unavailable contact. Maybe Someone does not want to be found?
- You and your spouse are now in a serious stage of “Anger” and fight with each other constantly. Maybe a sign of divorce being a real option?
- Suddenly there is no fighting, no communication, and no caring between the partners in this marriage. Does anyone care anymore about the future of divorce for this marriage?
- Money issues seem to start happening with changes in Bank amounts dwindling or new accounts being opened. Credit/debit card amounts are rising as if someone is planning to embark on a new life after a divorce!
If you are seeing two or more of these situations happening in your marriage, there may still be time to save this marriage. Start with meeting in a non-threatening location to talk about agreeing on making some major decisions on staying married or getting a divorce. If this is not possible in your current situation, suggest visiting with an agreed upon marriage counselor and try to work out serious problems in your marriage. It is always worth a try for both of you and your family to try and save the marriage.
Many times, one or both spouses are done with “us” and now want to be “me”. If saving a marriage is totally impossible, then look for a knowledgeable family law attorney who can help you get through this terrible yet sometimes necessary experience.
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Dallas, Texas 75231